As a relationship coach, I've often found that the tell-tale sign of a female narcissist is that she seems to want a man in her life to feed off of his desire for her. As though the reason she wants a relationship at all is only to feel lusted after and to feel power in her beauty. While there is nothing wrong with wanting to feel desired (men want that as well), in order to have a healthy relationship, the desire to be desired should come with at least equal part desire for the other person. In fact, she should be distracted by her desire for him to the point that she can't wallow in the self-worship of absorbing his lust. The same is true of him. His focus should be on her and her on him. It is the trait of a narcissist that her relationship is seen as a way to feel worshipped with desire. It's literally backwards.