The article said, “to a large extent heterosexual women are their own erotic targets. Their arousal emanates to some significant degree from their own erotic relationship with themselves.”

It also talked about women being turned on by imagining how hot they would look in front of a mirror.

No mention of women focusing more on their own pleasure in modern times. Pleasing a woman and giving her pleasure is all men hear about while growing up and learning about how to get a girlfriend or wife. So times have certainly changed.

But let’s be honest, if a MAN said to you that he was turned on most by his own sexiness when having sex. Or thought about and was turned on by how hot he would look having sex in front of a mirror, there wouldn’t be articles written celebrating that or telling women that they had better learn more about male sexuality.

Men, or at least the man who described his arousal being from his sexiness would be presented as having an ego that the federal tax intake couldn’t afford. He’d be presented comically as a narcissist.

I see women who are only focused on feeling they are hot and being turned on by their own sexiness in the same way. And I bet a lot of people would agree with me if they were being honest.

A mature, loving, and healthy relationship should have sex where both partners are focused on their partner and turned on by their partner. Narscisistic self worship of one’s “own sexiness,” is pretty messed up and puts the opposite partner in the place of worshipper where both the worshipper and the “goddess” are focused on and turned on by only one of them.

Since women were also referred to as goddesses in the article, I guess that makes sense.

I have more of a view that sex in loving relationships should be more about mutual desire, visual appreciation for the partner (both of them), and shared pleasure where each focus on the other’s enjoyment. Call me crazy.